Today is my 9th wedding anniversary and I have a confession to make. I forgot all about it.
I dropped my daughter off at school, went for a morning run and returned home to see my husband and high school sweetheart standing in the middle of the foyer with his arms wide open and a big smile on his face. I immediately wondered what wonderful thing I had done to deserve such a greeting. My high opinion of myself spiraled to the earth when my man exclaimed, “Happy Anniversary!!”
Knowing that pretending like I had remembered would have gotten me into a whole lot of trouble, I simply melted into his arms (well, not so much because I was kinda sweaty from the run), returned the wish and confessed my misdeed.
Naturally, I posted my anniversary news to Twitter and Facebook and received many congratulatory wishes. (Thank you!) I even got a few requests for some tips on how we’ve made it last this long. Hence, the title of this post: bliss, diss and kiss.
Can it get any simpler than that? Well, to be honest, it’s far more complicated in some respects, but in many ways, marriage boils down to just those things.
Bliss: Who needs an explanation of bliss? It’s the fantastic feeling after a romp in the hay or the simple knowledge that you are safer with your spouse than you are any other place on earth. Bliss is a part of marriage that is sweet and satisfying. But it’s not always that way. There’s always …
Diss: For example, if you forget your anniversary, your spouse may see that as a diss. I probably would, but now that I’ve done it and watched my husband let it go and love me anyway, if he ever forgets, I won’t see it that way.
Yes, we diss each other sometimes. And it hurts. But it’s never intentional because we always know that we have each other’s best interests at heart. But intentional or not, a diss is a diss and if you decide to stay married (or at least un-divorced), you will have to learn to get over lots of them. Then at the end of the day, you always …
Kiss: Whether it’s bliss or diss, the bottom line is that you have to make up your mind to kiss, meaning come together and stay together. Over and over again. My husband and I have a laundry list of legitimate issues that have caused other couples to call it quits. Hey, sometimes, there's just too much diss and not enough bliss. That's how it is sometimes when you are someone's life mate.
If splitting up is an option for either of you, then at some point, you’ll probably split up. But if it’s not, then you and your mate will kiss, not just after the bliss, but also after the diss.
So that’s it. Bliss. Diss. Kiss.
Question: what do you think?
